14) What to do when a guy approaches?
It takes a lot of courage for a guy to approach a woman, most guys are not very good at communication. You have got to deal with the approach correctly.
Unfortunately, he has probably had too much bad advice from his friends. Or thinks that by using a chat up line or being sexually aggressive he can win you over. As you don't like that sort of approach you probably have to deal with him diplomatically.
If you like him, smile and build up a conversation. Don't immediately open up to him, let him work and prove himself to you. But don't be defensive or cold either. At your own speed gradually open up to him and increase your flirting.
Never walk away because you want to play hard to get. If you walk away not many men are going to come back, by walking away you have made it clear, you are not interested. Unless of course you have told him you will be back in a minute or you have given him your phone number.
If you don't like him, be polite but firm about it. This guy has built up his courage to come over and start a conversation with you. Don't say "Get lost loser, nerd, geek or Do I look desperate". Even though they don’t openly show it, men have feelings as well. This is just plain nasty, would you like it if every time you approached a guy they said "Get lost ugly". The chances are that he has told his friends, so not only have you just called this guy a loser, you have also ruled out the chances of getting with his 20 other friends and all the guys that his 20 friends knows. Equally so, making friends with this guy may allow you to strike up a conversation with one of his more attractive friends.
Unfortunately, he has probably had too much bad advice from his friends. Or thinks that by using a chat up line or being sexually aggressive he can win you over. As you don't like that sort of approach you probably have to deal with him diplomatically.
If you like him, smile and build up a conversation. Don't immediately open up to him, let him work and prove himself to you. But don't be defensive or cold either. At your own speed gradually open up to him and increase your flirting.
Never walk away because you want to play hard to get. If you walk away not many men are going to come back, by walking away you have made it clear, you are not interested. Unless of course you have told him you will be back in a minute or you have given him your phone number.
If you don't like him, be polite but firm about it. This guy has built up his courage to come over and start a conversation with you. Don't say "Get lost loser, nerd, geek or Do I look desperate". Even though they don’t openly show it, men have feelings as well. This is just plain nasty, would you like it if every time you approached a guy they said "Get lost ugly". The chances are that he has told his friends, so not only have you just called this guy a loser, you have also ruled out the chances of getting with his 20 other friends and all the guys that his 20 friends knows. Equally so, making friends with this guy may allow you to strike up a conversation with one of his more attractive friends.
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