21) Why do men call women bad names?

You may have heard men call women all sorts of bad names. Usually it is when talking to other men about their women. Even as a man, it is difficult to say whether a man really means some of things he says or whether he is just acting macho to his friends. But certainly in some circumstances the things they say are to hide their true feelings about a woman.

The fact is that women are more fussy when choosing a man. A man is less fussy but is also prone to using a woman for sex. Quite often a friend will say "what happened with the blonde the other night". A man will usually reply with something macho "she turned out to be a bitch" or "she was just a shag". It is hard to understand whether this is a true statement of their feelings or whether it is a displacement of their true feelings. What you are unlikey to hear a man say to another man is "she turned me down because I was not her type", that is just too emotional for a man and admits to his friend that he has been rejected. So although he says those phrases, they might actually be hiding the fact that he is really disappointed because the more fussy woman has rejected him.

Another common circumstance where he will call a woman bad names, is where she has been cheating on him. Again he fails to tell his friend in an emotional manner because men hate emotions. He will tell his friends: "she was a slapper/slut anyway". Again this is jumping over the fact that he has been cheated on and rejected. Also by insulting her with a name and telling everybody else she is a slapper/slut he is turning his mind around to the fact that he is not going to miss her and he should move onto someone else, whilst also getting his revenge by telling other people.

In conclusion, a man does have feelings, he just does not like displaying these feelings to anybody else. He deals with situations like this by convincing himself that the woman was not worth the bother anyway, it's his only coping mechanism.

Of course if the relationship has progressed to the love stages, he will be far more frustrated. Dopamine and other brain chemicals are involved and he will display much more aggressive, emotional and frustrated symptoms. I don't know enough about the chemical reactions in the brain when we fall in love and when we split up, so I will refrain from trying to describe this process.